Meeting The Emotional Demands of Becoming a Mum

You’ve painted the nursery and bought the pram – but can you prepare mentally for the trials to come?   Parenting is a tough gig. Even if you’ve never felt symptoms of depression or anxiety before, pregnancy and childbirth can increase the risk of these feelings.  Becoming a parent is an emotional time, shrouded by high, often unrealistic expectations on how your new role will fit into your old life. It is a period of adjustment in your relationship, your work and social life as you adapt to meet your…

The Night Watch – My Child Magazine

    ‘You want me to get up? But I have work in the morning!’ These words are heard in bedrooms throughout the globe when a baby cries at night. While some relish every precious moment with a newborn (yes, even the ones at 3am) for others, months of broken sleep can feel like torture. So, when both parents are exhausted, who should take responsibility when those midnight cries risk your sanity, and relationship? Here’s five reasons why sharing the night shift is the best thing for both your relationship,…

Happy To Be Stuck With You? Or Stuck for the sake of the kids?

  Is staying in a loveless marriage the selfless act of a responsible parent, or a miserable way to spend the only life you get? Those faced with this heart wrenching dilemma may ask themselves if the stress of their marriage is affecting their parenting, and would the kids be better off if they split? A plethora of contradictory statistics on the matter are available online, along with plenty of opinions and judgements on what is ‘best’ for kids long-term. Friends and family also tend to offer their advice, yet…

Camping with kids: would you rather poke sticks in your eyes?

Go Camping, they said. It’ll be fun, they said.  So, with a blank calendar both weekend days, and for no particular reason than to get unplugged for a while, us city folk hitched on the camper-trailer and headed for cowpad country. One could question the sense of a one-night trip; all that packing and driving and unpacking for less than 24hrs? (And yes, on our return I did wash four heads of hair twice each to exorcise that smoky campfire smell). But the beauty of knowing it’s just one night…

Children are our stories

While staring at that pesky blinking cursor, waiting for my muse to arrive so I could start this blog, I received a lovely email from a reader asking when my third ‘book baby’ is due. I’d heard the term before—seen memes likening finishing a novel to giving birth. Books and babies; both represent the best parts of my day. I’ve done both three times and I’m not sure I’m on board with the metaphor. Would that, by extension, make publishers the book’s midwife, and publicists the nanny … making sure…

Working From Home – With Children?

  I make things up for a living – in Ugg boots. It sounds perfect, doesn’t it?  Living the writer’s dream – to be your own boss, float from book tour to launch party with the flexibility to schedule work around family commitments… And that’s where things come unstuck: the ‘work-around’ and ‘family’ bit. Like the time I did a live radio interview while holding a cold-pack to my three-year-old’s blood nose as his siblings spear-tackled on the couch.  (It provided laughs, at least). In a conventional workplace, it’s rare…

Diagnosis: Spirited

I have what they politely call ‘spirited’ children. You know the ones: the type checkout operators suddenly open extra lanes for, that you hear coming before they arrive. Children that, while others sip babycinos on their mother’s laps, are hell-bent trying to pull apart the fire-extinguisher. While my boys are generally well mannered, kind natured kids, their tenacity makes them question every request, push every boundary, test every rule.  They’re energetic, curious beasts with determination in spades and wills of steel. It can be hard to reign in all that…